Why take stock?
Is it an inherited custom, another seasonal ritual, or a powerful tool to understand ourselves better? What takes us to that moment where we decide to stop and examine what we were, what we did, what we left pending?
Taking stock of the year is something that many consider necessary. Now, is this balance bringing us closer to our essence, to our vision, to what we long to build? Or is it simply an endless list of achievements and failures, a parade of “shoulds” that end up weighing more than inspiring?
What questions are we really asking ourselves?
When we sit down to write, review, or even think about what has happened, what are we looking for? Do we stop only at the numbers and the results? Or do we explore the emotions, the internal transformations, the moments in which we grew, even if it has not been recorded in any trophy?
Is it possible that some balance sheets become traps, distorted mirrors that only reflect what we believe we should have been? How honest are we in this process? Do we dare to acknowledge the days when we sit quietly and simply breathe, with no more “productivity” than that? intimate connection with the present?
And if the intention is to grow, evolve, advance, how do we define that advancement? Is it linear? Is it cumulative? Is it tangible? Or perhaps it is much more subtle and sometimes invisible?
Looking back, What place does desire occupy in this exercise? Inevitably we come across our goals, those that we perhaps wrote with enthusiasm in January and that, when December arrives, seem distant, or even unrecognizable. However, how much of those goals responded to our most authentic and deepest desire?
What if the true balance is not in compliance but in reconnection? In remembering who we are, what we want, what really moves us? How do we know if we are aligned with what we want, and not with the expectations of others or the noise of the world?
Taking stock can be an act of reconciliationa space to dialogue with our contradictions, with what we dream and what we did. But it can also be an opportunity to ask ourselves What have I learned from my desires?
And… how to prevent the balance from frustrating us?
That feeling of urgency! The time. “The year is ending,” we tell ourselves, and with it it seems that the opportunities, the attempts, the possibilities of “doing better” will end.
What if, when taking stock, we do not seek to measure what is missing, but rather what was? What would happen if we stopped looking at life in time and in our time, as a limited resource and started to see it as a continuous journey, a construction that has no annual end?
The frustration, perhaps, does not come from the balance itself, but from the way we deal with it. How much space do we give to self-compassion, to gratitude, to the recognition that every step counts, even the ones that seem small or clumsy?
What if this December, instead of asking ourselves how much we achieved, we asked ourselves how much we lived? How much do we allow ourselves to be?
A different balance for a different life
The balance, in the end, is not a list. It is not a comparison. It is not a sentence. It is an invitation to look at us deeplyto listen to our questions, our doubts, our still unexplored certainties.
Are we willing to do this exercise from the honestyfrom the vulnerability, from the courage What does it mean to recognize that not everything can be measured, but everything can transform us?
If you are at that point where the questions are more disturbing than the answers, where the balance feels more like a search than a conclusion, perhaps it is time to do it differently. Because it is not about closing cycles, but about open spaces. It’s not about judging, but about understanding.
As a Coach, I accompany people who are ready to redefine the way they look at themselves and their world. People who know that easy answers are not enough, but who also know that there is immense power in the right questions.
If this December you are looking a balance that brings you closer to your essence, that inspires you, that lifts you up instead of holding you back, maybe it’s time to take it a step further. Because growing is not a destiny, it is an art.
I invite you to take that step with me.
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by CEDOC
