THEn America is talked about as a fact: we are in Romantic recession. Post-electoral surveys showed a 14% difference in supporting Trump between unmarried men and women. And this distance of political orientation -which is obviously not only political -, has definitively complicated sentimental relationships. But we are not only witnessing the “Slow and silent end of American romanticism», As he says Faith Hill in an essay on Atlantic. The phenomenon, according to several studies, seems to be global: “Single is better” is a widespread sensation in general in the world. Especially among women.
Romantic receipt, because straight women convenient (and likes) to be single
It is not surprising that many single heterosexual womenespecially graduates, are wary of men who support Trump. Just as the renewal of the Macho Trumpian man does not surprise to attend new feminists (The Survey Center on American Life tells it). Already in 2023, The Washington Post’s editorial committee had warned that “it could be a cultural change requiredwho consider politics as a part of the identity of people, but far from being the most important part “.
The ideological gap between men and women after Trump’s election
They are witnessing, analysts say, to a growing ideological gap of gender. A gap due to the fact that Women are becoming more progressive at a faster pace than men. Who instead react with the male chauvinist ideology of Trump and supporters, the men who boast of “Protect women, whether they want it or not” and that convinced the slogan they “Your Body, My Choice“. (in evident contrast to the historian My Body, My Choice of feminists). The result is in the very serious repercussions on sentimental relationships.
No more spinsters, no housework, many social relationships: for this reason single women grow
But the question seems to have deeper reasons. Another study Social Psychological and Personality Science Signed by Elaine Hoan and Geoff Macdonald clarifies the reasons that women lead to choosing not to live in pairs and to draw satisfaction. Single straight women are better than straight women in pairs. But even better than single men.
On the one hand, in fact, they no longer suffer, like their older mothers or sisters “spinsters”, the stigma for the fact that they have not married. In addition, We save the “cost” of the domestic work that instead have to pay their married peers. Women’s domestic work that, for their part, men continue to take for granted in a relationship. In addition, women know how to network women. The men do not, or very little: they pour their need for relationship in the couple, continuing to dream of a subordination of their partner who can no longer have. For this, they are worse as a single.
As this article also says, always on The Survey Center on American Life, The forties seem to be tended to be a little too good and emancipated compared to their aspiring partners. They have an active life, many interests and friendships: they don’t need a relationship.
We can afford to be demanding
To the issue of the affirmation of single women he dedicated part of his research Alice Evans. According to which “modern societies are witnessing a radical change in mating. In the past, Patriarchal societies enjoyed a demographic advantage: marriage and motherhood were celebrated, while the spinsters were humiliated. So every woman got married and had children ». But now, «as companies liberalize themselves and stigma fails, Women can afford to be demanding». And also, in the absence of good compatibility, or in the presence of boring, violent men, manipulators and/or infidels, to give up.
From Iran to Türkiye, to Italy
This does not only apply to America, but in many places in the world. From Iran, where the weddings collapsed from 800,000 to 480,000 per year within a decade, despite the incentives, to Türkiye, less 20% in two decades, allEU where the nuclei composed of a single person are increasing exponential. Also applies to Italy: according to Istat 2022-2023 data The share of those who live without partner has doubled Among the people aged between 25 and 64 – from 10.9% to 22.1% of the total.
Men and women, we demand partners at the same height
In other words, with the fading of cultural coercion, The relationships worthy of being lived are those based on love, respect and affection. But while the desire to (re) subordinate the partners, to return to a traditional order, is in the wishes and in the political agenda of many men, women, and above all those with a high level of education, demand less inequal families to engage in weddings and maternity.
When the supply is lacking? Give up. And, hear hear, they do not conceive: it is a cause of the demographic drop not quite analyzed. THEto fertility and future birth rate could then depend on love and equality in society and in the couple. We cross our fingers.
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