Ex-officer and podcaster Nico Lingman talks about his open relationship with the “lip gloss girl”, i.e. Iris, in the new book.
Podcaster Nico Lingman talks about his open relationship in a new book. Rosa Bröijer
Freelancer, ex-officer and podcaster Nico Lingman tells about his open relationship with the 37-year-old in the new book To the iriswhich he also calls “lip gloss”. The two met each other on Tinder, and the relationship officially began after six months of dating. They are not Miia Saaren written by Nico Lingman – In War and Love – according to the book, they argued even once.
Lingman has previously told on Instagram surprising things about their relationship: they haven’t spoken on the phone, they only meet once a week, neither of them have met the other’s children, and both have one marriage behind them.
This is how Nico Lingman justifies his open relationship in the book.
Italicized passages are direct excerpts from the book.
He emphasizes that he cannot be a tall man, an extremely muscular man or a dark-skinned man. And not many men at once, not to mention women. So there are really many things that Iris wouldn’t be able to experience if she was only with him. Nowadays, even Iris is downright horrified by the thought that she should only be with one person for the rest of her life. Or that Nico wouldn’t.
“We’re still quite young.”
According to the book, the couple has strict rules for their open relationship.
1. We only have sex with others. You don’t go to the gym, movies, restaurant dates or parties with others. You can only have sex with others. Weekends in hotels and cottages with a sex partner are also prohibited, even if there is nothing to do but have sex.
2. The primary partner’s interest is number one. If the primary partner wants to spend Friday together and the other has previously arranged a sex date for the same Friday, the sex date will be cancelled. If we leave together, we also return together. You don’t go on someone else’s trip in the middle of your own date.
3. Nico always reports his sex with others.
4. Iris doesn’t have to report her sex with others except if Nico asks.
5. You don’t even have to visit lucky gifts.
– If six good things happen to Iris in the next six months and none to me, it doesn’t matter. You don’t have to do any balancing calculations here, the other person doesn’t have to fill the gap with some panomarathon, comments Nico Lingman in his book about this rule.
6. It is not forbidden to fall in love with someone else. However, you have to tell someone about it right away.
7. No more children.
8. You must not behave badly under the guise of jealousy.
9. After the divorce, the relationship does not continue.
The two have received pairing offers, which they have not taken. Instead, the couple is interested in the companionship of three people. Nico Lingman says in the book that if the third party were a man, he could not imagine doing anything sexual with him.
Written by Miia Saare, Nico Lingman – In war and love (Otava) will be published on June 4. Italicized passages are excerpts from the book.