NoIn the States, as we know, romantic dates follow precise rules. Codifying behaviors is considered a good way to create a roadmap within which to move. This applies to avoid accusations of harassment (especially after #MeToo) but also simply to facilitate relationships. The New York Times asked its readers to update their first date instruction booklet.
The new 10 rules to follow on the first date
Here are 10 of the suggestions that I think can also be used on this side of the ocean.
1. “Don’t immediately talk about disgusting diseasesI would add: don’t talk about it at all. What the heck!
2. “If you’re keeping track of who sent a message first, how long you waited between replies, etc., you’ve already lost.” True, there isn’t nothing worse than a love timekeeper.
Antonella Baccaro (photo by Carlo Furgeri Gilbert).
3. “Shared values are much more important than shared interestsWe’re serious here. After all, in a world as crazy as the current one, who would want to find themselves flirting with a returning fan of the patriarchy?
4. “Be skeptical about statements made on a first date.” Which conflicts with what was said before. So let’s say that It’s okay to give a second chance, but in moderation. And not at all.
5. “After age 28, no roommates.” Let alone after the -anta.
6. “Get to the meeting as quickly as possible. Don’t waste endless hours texting“. What can I say? On the third WhatsApp preparatory to the meeting, in Furio style (Carlo Verdone’s character), not being found is self-defense.
7. “Look how he treats the waiters, bartenders, etc. Especially notice if he makes eye contact.” An empathy test, which I would also recommend for choosing a friend.
8. “Crosses up if he talks negatively (and continuously) about an exBut this is a timeless must.
9. “If you have no interest in seeing him again, pay for yourselfAnd here, dear ladies, there is something to discuss.
10. “Avoid men who introduce themselves with i childhood diminutives“. Except if you are in Milan, where nicknames are rampant even in obituaries (and maybe you miss something). And what new rule would you suggest?
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