There are days when we feel weird. The body weighs us, we are irritable, sensitive or simply turned off … and we don’t know why. We continue with the routine, we respond messages, we meet tasks, but something within our feels disconnected. And in the midst of that disconnection, we often ask ourselves: What is happening to me?
It is not always easy to have that answer. We live hurried, full of demands and roles that taught us to comply. In that rhythm, emotions are usually in the background, as if they were not important, as if they bother. But ignoring them does not make them disappear. They only hide … until they find another way to leave: in the body, in an excessive reaction, in tiredness without reason, in the distance with those we want.
Therefore, learn to validate what we feel It is more urgent than ever. Because emotions are not system errors, they are signs. Notices of the soul that whisper us that something needs attention. There are no good or bad emotions. There are emotions that inhabit us, and they all have something to say. Rabies, for example, may be taking care of us. Sadness, talking about a loss. Fear, trying to protect us. Each has its logic, its meaning, its root. But only if we stop to look inward we can understand them.
Sometimes we believe that being strong is not feeling, not crying, not showing. But true strength is in realize to really feelwith honesty and without judgment. It is to take away the armor and allow us to be human. Because when we dare to connect with what really happens to us, something is ordered inside. Something breathes.
I like to think that authenticity is like returning home after a long day: you take out tight shoes, awkward clothes, and you stay with you. Thus, simple, real. No character, without foreign expectations, effortlessly. Only you. And that moment – that really small instant – is deeply repairing.
Throughout life, we often learn to show ourselves in ways that do not represent us at all. We shut up what hurts, soften what bothers, disguise what we fear. We create acceptable versions of ourselves to survive a world that rewards perfection and punishes sensitivity. But at some point, that character becomes heavy. It doesn’t come in. It bothers us.
And there begins another trip. One back. A trip inwards.
It is a path that requires courage, yes, but also tenderness. Because connecting with what we feel is not always comfortable, but it is deeply necessary. It is the way we are in tune with ourselves. It is when we stop reacting meaningless and began to respond with intention. It is when we begin to name what happens to us, to express what we need, to live from the truth.
And in that process – which is not linear or perfect – we are finding a more light way of being in the world. More consistent. Freer. Because when we stop hiding, we stop loading with the weight of sustaining something that we are not. And that feels like breathing deep after a long time.
This is not a call to expose yourself without limits, but to be inhabited with authenticity. To recognize our emotions as part of what makes us human. To look inside again in curiosity instead of judgment. And to allow us to be, with all that that implies.
There may not be an exact formula to regulate emotions, but there is a clear address: connect with who we are, with what we feel, with what we needand from there build a more own life, more true.
Because when we go home – that internal place where we can be without masks – we finally feel in peace.
Lic. Ingrid Ávila
Cognitive therapist.
Specialist in anxiety disorders.
Master in Psychoneuroendocrinoimmunology.
Clinical sexologist.
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- www.psicologyingvila.com.ar.
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