There are phrases that, no matter how much you hear a thousand times, do not lose strength. In my work with leaders, teams and professionals from different fields, there is one in particular that always shudders:
“I want you to help me be better.”
That phrase tells me everything. He tells me that this person is already moving. That has no roof. Who chose to leave the autopilot and take care of his evolution.
The most powerful thing about that request is not what it expresses, but what it reveals. He does not talk about a fault, he talks about a decision. He does not talk about weakness, he talks about courage. In a world that idolizes security and punishes doubt, asking for help to grow is a deep form of self -determined.
Accompanying change processes taught me to see beyond visible achievements. I saw bright, talented, stagnant people for not questioning, and I saw others, grow exponentially, just by having a different attitude: the to want to learn. The one to look without excuses. The one to open to another look, although it bothers.
Because of course, growing implies accepting weaknesses and leaving the ego aside. Moving from “I am like that” to “I can be better” is not comfortable. But it is there, in that discomfort, where the most valuable is born. It is outside the comfort zone where you can grow. Therefore, the person who achieves it, has no roof and their possibilities are extended without limit.
I remember a leader who told me that he was not going to the end of the year dinner because he did not like those events, he said – “I do not feel comfortable” – to which I replied: – “Do it uncomfortable, if you want to grow up, you have to get out of your comfort and comfort zone.”
I do not work with formulas. I have no closed answers or magical recipes. What I offer is a space. A context where real development can emerge. Sometimes with questions. Sometimes with silence. Always with presence and respect.
And, above all, with a certainty: No one transforms into solitude. We all need a mirror, an honest look, someone who teaches and shows other paths, someone who trusts.
Therefore, when someone arrives and tells me that phrase – “I want you to help me be better”– I not only listen to her. I celebrate it. Because I know that person has just taken the most difficult step. Because I know that, at that moment, his roof – if he once had it – has just broken.
Romina López Cuenca
Psychologist, lecturer and leaders.
Acknowledgments:
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Contact: Lic. Romina López Cuenca, +54 9 2645028294
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Book “Lead with your own light” available at https://tintalibre.com.ar/book/2037/liderar_con_luz_propia
And e-book https://a.co/d/afwt9tu
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